Respectability politics

I’m generally nice because I want to be, but I do want to say something about respectability politics. Trans people get thrown under the bus, murdered, misgendered, dead named, threatened, told to commit suicide, humiliated and treated like shit intentionally an unintentionally from enemies and allies alike, but we are supposed to be as sensitive […]

Dear Ivy: As Long As They Look Female

Here’s a wonderful message that I got on Facebook last night! Hey, Ivy. Do you know any transgender women (m2f) who look pretty convincing? I was thinking about it and I am tempted to try a relationship like that since I’m curious and because, as long as they look female (or pretty freaking close), I […]

And this is why I don’t talk about being raped

The amazing quote, and the picture, come from here. “You could have just walked away?” “What, were you tied up or something?” “Why didn’t you just push her away from you?” “That can’t happen.” “Anybody with what you have always wants it.” “You’re making it up.” And, as of recently, the newest one, which came […]

I’ll be back in a few days

Hey sunshines. Things have gotten to a really bad point with me, I’m very much red, and while I’m still lucid enough to do so, I’m going back to the crisis unit.Over the last two weeks I’ve been battling extremely bad depressive thoughts and suicidal thoughts, mainly due to dysphoria, and the added piece of […]

Speech class, trans life, and writer’s block from hell

Once again, the change in medium is fucking with me. I need to write my final speech for class, and I’m stuck as stuck can be. What’s my topic? Trans life and trans issues! Obviously I have a lot of experience talking about things within my life as a trans woman, but for whatever reason, […]

What Comes After Coming Out?

Originally posted on I Don't Stand Still:
People picture life in┬ámovie scenes. When you marry someone, you get in a car and ride down a dirt road into the sunset, Hollywood smiles flashing white and beautiful. You finish college, and there’s a shot of caps going into the air, and people laughing in joy.…

Rapid descent into darkness

It’s amazing how fast my moods and feelings can change. That’s one of the scarier deals with everything I deal with. 10 minutes ago, I was totally okay, a little tired, a lot in pain, but okay mentally. Now… I’m down and out, feeling like I’m going to explode with dysphoric uncomfortability (if that’s not […]